A Call for Authenticity: Breaking the Cycle of Pretending to Feel Fine

Is it ever acceptable to pretend that one feels okay when they're not? The truth is, we often find ourselves in the uncomfortable position of hiding our true feelings, especially in social settings. This can be especially challenging when we have responsibilities and roles that require us to be strong and stable, such as being a single parent or caring for aging relatives. Yet, pretending to be fine can be a harmful and deceptive practice that not only affects our well-being but also neglects our social responsibilities and emotional resilience.

Why Pretending to Feel Fine Can Be Harmful

I hate having to pretend that I feel fine but it is something I do very often when I am with other people. This is because most people around me do not show genuine interest in my feelings or problems. Keeping my emotions to myself can be less painful than continuously being let down by others who do not want to listen. As a single father with a daughter at home and aging parents to care for, the responsibility can be immense. While I am physically disabled and unable to find a supplemental job, life can still seem turbulent, yet objectively, we have been in worse conditions. However, pretending that times are dire and screaming "OH SHIT! WERE GONNA DIE!" would only amplify my own distress and not solve anything.

Recognizing the Reality

Have you ever wondered how I came to the conclusion that things will get better? Do you truly know me, or is it any of your business to question my thoughts and feelings? While I understand that emotions can be temporary and are influenced by our thoughts and physical state, it is crucial to acknowledge that pretending to be fine can be damaging. If we can control these factors, why deny ourselves the opportunity to feel better?

The Power of Positive Thinking and Holistic Well-being

Feelings are indeed temporary and, no matter how long they last, they will eventually pass. These emotions are often a byproduct of our thoughts and physical state. By focusing on positive thoughts, engaging in healthy habits, and taking care of our mental and physical health, we can shift our emotional state. For instance, gratitude journaling, engaging in activities that bring joy, spending time in nature, and listening to uplifting music or podcasts can significantly impact our mood.

However, it is also essential to address our bodily needs. If our body is unhealthy, no amount of positive thinking will change our emotional state. Eating well, sleeping well, and exercising can help us feel better. Conversely, indulging every whim and fancy without regard for our health will only lead to negative feelings and poor physical health. Therefore, maintaining a balanced approach to our mental and physical well-being is crucial.

Exceptional Circumstances and Seeking Help

While we can exert control over many aspects of our lives, there may be times when our body or thoughts require medical or social interventions. In such cases, it is inexcusable to pretend to be fine. Instead, seeking help from medical professionals or therapists can be the best way forward. We all need help from time to time, and there is nothing wrong with admitting that we need support. It is not okay to use our feelings as an excuse to be a less than functional member of society if we have the capability to improve our situation.

Ultimately, pretending to be fine is a cycle that can be broken by embracing authenticity and acknowledging our true emotions. While it may be tempting to hide our struggles, doing so only perpetuates a destructive cycle. By addressing our emotional and physical health, we can lead more fulfilling and positive lives.