Assertive Communication in Choir: Strategies for Effective Feedback while Maintaining Team Cohesion

Communicating assertively with volunteer choir members about issues with their singing requires a balance of honesty, empathy, and clarity. This article provides strategies to minimize drama and hurt feelings while distinguishing between what a choir director and a fellow choir member should do.

Strategies for Assertive Communication

Choose the Right Time and Place Private Conversations: Address issues privately to avoid embarrassment. Appropriate Setting: Find a quiet, comfortable space where the member can be receptive.

Use Framing

Frame feedback in terms of your own feelings and observations. For example:

"I noticed when you sang the high notes in 'Silent Night', it didn't quite match the desired tone quality. With a little practice, I think your voice could contribute beautifully to our performance."

Be Specific and Constructive

Focus on specific behaviors rather than personal traits. Instead of saying:

"You're not good at singing high notes."

Say:

"When you hit the high notes in 'Hallelujah', the pitch was a bit flat. If you can work on those notes, I think we'll get a better sound."

Balance Criticism with Praise

Start with positive feedback before addressing areas for improvement. This

"I love how you carry the melody in 'Ave Maria.' However, in the second verse, your pitch goes a bit flat at the high notes. With some practice, I'm sure you can nail it."

Encourage Dialogue

Invite the choir member to share their thoughts and feelings about the feedback. This can foster understanding and collaboration.

"I want to understand your perspective. Can you share how you felt when I gave you that feedback? I want to ensure we're both on the same page."

Offer Support

Suggest resources or methods for improvement such as vocal exercises, practice tips, or even working with a vocal coach.

"Have you tried our vocal warm-up exercises before rehearsals? Let's practice together and see how you improve."

Maintain a Positive Tone

Keep the conversation friendly and supportive. Your tone can significantly influence how the message is received.

"Thank you for your hard work, and let's continue to support each other as we refine our performance."

Roles in Communication

What Only a Director Should Do:

Set Standards: The director should establish clear vocal standards and expectations for the choir. Conduct Group Feedback: The director can provide constructive feedback to the entire choir addressing common issues without singling out individuals. Manage Conflicts: If tensions arise, the director should mediate and resolve conflicts to maintain harmony within the group. Provide Formal Training: Directors may organize workshops or invite professionals for vocal coaching.

What a Fellow Choir Member Can Do:

Peer Support: Offer encouragement and share personal experiences or tips that helped you improve. Casual Feedback: If comfortable, provide informal feedback during rehearsals but ensure it’s supportive and not critical. Create a Collaborative Environment: Foster a sense of teamwork by suggesting group practice sessions or warm-up exercises that can benefit everyone.

Conclusion

By approaching feedback with empathy and clarity, both directors and fellow members can contribute to a positive choir environment. The goal is to help each other grow while maintaining a supportive and enjoyable atmosphere.