Why Is It Always Me?

Have you ever found yourself asking, 'Why is it always me? ' This feeling of being unlucky or singled out can be a common experience in our lives. Personally, there have been many instances where I have felt this way.

Fraternal Paradoxes

One such instance was when I was in class. My class teacher proposed that the entire class could pool our money to buy better headsets, but the collective price would only be around 40 RS, which was likely low quality. As the youngest in a rich family, I was often envied for my privileges, but I had a different experience.

The Forgotten Child

I was constantly the forgotten child within my family. Even as the youngest in a wealthy family, my parents never showed much pride or attention toward me. When I received low grades, they didn't care, and even when I scored highly, they still didn't show interest. The wish to be punished even tinged my emotions—I wished for some form of attention, but that never happened.

Even during family dinners, my mother would call out to my siblings, but often left me out. This led to moments of hunger and loneliness.

Loss and Grief

A particularly difficult period for me was four years ago when my soulmate lost her life to a stroke. The mix of emotions I felt was a complex blend of grief, loss, and a sense of 'why me.' Such a profound loss can be overwhelming, but it's important to know that you can survive through such times.

Seeking Support

Do not be afraid to reach out to loved ones when you need to talk. It won't cure your feelings, but it can offer some comfort and support. Having someone to listen can make a significant difference.

Addressing Personal Concerns

Jeeru Pavan, a counselor, advises that it's important to address any physical or mental symptoms. If you experience anything out of the ordinary, visit a physician. He also suggests relaxation techniques, such as mindful breathing, which can be particularly helpful for stress and anxiety.

Practical Suggestions

Reduce negative media intake: Watch less negative content on social media and try to stay positive. Practice mindfulness: Observe the sensations of your breath at the entrance of your nostrils for 5 to 15 minutes daily. This can help relax your mind and reduce stress. Make it a habit: Incorporate mindful breathing into your daily routine—before sleep, at work, while walking, or before bed. Keep a reminder to observe your breath anywhere, anytime.

By maintaining a mindful approach to breathing and staying connected with supportive friends and family, you can navigate through tough times and come out stronger.